Needs Versus Wants

A friend passed this article to me and I couldn't help but post it. What a great time of the year to teach our kids the difference between wanting and needing something. My kids have the hardest time understanding why the can't get a new toy every time we go into a store. I am still trying to explain to Brody that Santa's funds are limited this year just like mommy's and daddy's. Brody is wanting a PlayStation 2. I told him we don't have that type of money and he goes, I'm not asking you for it I am asking Santa... Ummm... So please enjoy this article and let me know how your family deals with this issue.

"I was interviewed last week for an editorial article on the topic of children and gifts during this holiday season -- and it got me thinking. As parents how well do we prepare are kids for the onslaught of advertisements? Our children are bombarded from television ads, online ads and every other form of advertisement with the latest "must-have" toys, electronic gadgets and cool clothes.

I hear parents all the time say that they HAVE to get their kids the latest "stuff" because their kids NEED it! Furthermore, parents are experiencing a lot of anxiety because challenges with the economy mean budgets are typically more limited this year than in the recent past. For most people, born after the Great Depression, this has come as quite a shock! They don't want to let down their kids, who have grown used to getting everything they ask for. This is a great opportunity for parents to teach their children the difference between wants and needs. When kids say, "I need to have the latest iPod, (even though I have two more, but they're old)," they misunderstand needs vs. wants. Needs are basic necessities of life like food, shelter, clothing, guidance and love. Wants are everything else that the advertisers have very cleverly made SO appealing.
Given the current budgetary restraints of most households, this is a great time to teach children the importance of prioritizing. If a child has 10 things he or she wants for Christmas, perhaps it would help the child (and their parents) to pick the top three! If there's only enough money to buy the top gift, then when birthdays or graduations come around, the parents can get them their second and third items on the list.It will teach the kids patience and a real understanding, that in life you don't always get what you want, nor do you get it instantly. Delayed gratification is one of the signs of maturity. Or, even better, how about if the children work to do extra chores around the house or the neighborhood and earn the money for No's. 2 and 3 themselves!Another problem I've seen is that far too many parents equate lots of gift-giving to giving lots of love. I believe this is called a "parental shortcut."Good parenting is spending quality time with your children, resolving issues, listening patiently and expressing love, support and tenderness. Honestly, when kids grow up they don't remember the toys. They remember the special times spent together as a family. They remember the traditions, the laughter, the games, the Christmas songs around the fireplace. They remember the activities, like building a snowman, going sledding and having snowball fights. The truth is that gifts break or get lost, sometimes the very same day that they are opened! On the other hand, happy, joyful memories are NEVER lost! That's what makes our childhood so special -- and that's the best gift of all for us as parents to give to our children!"